Diffusing Competition in Families
Title: Diffusing Competition in Families
Reading for January 9: Genesis 27-29
Now Laban had two daughters. The name of the older was Leah, and the name of the younger was Rachel. Leah's eyes were weak, but Rachel was beautiful in form and appearance.
Laban's family is no different than anyone else's. We love our children all the same and we want them to feel valued and appreciated for all of the unique gifts and talents they possess. But as hard as we may try, our children will suffer at times from moments of self-doubt and insecurity. They will invariably compare themselves to each other and feel that we love their siblings more because they seem to be smarter, more athletic, funnier, or more attractive.
We can't stop this from happening but what can and should we do as parents to help our children with their insecurities?
1. Correct less and connect more. If all our children hear from us is correction they will likely assume that we don't love them or value them. And I know, this is easier said than done, but we've got to make sure we're spending quality, one on one time with our kids to help them know that they are valued and appreciated by us.
2. Help them to celebrate the strengths in their siblings. When we resent the strengths of others we are despising the work of God. He has uniquely gifted each of us for his glory. We should be thankful for the talents of others, especially those closest to us.
3. Praise them. Make sure they know how much we appreciate the unique talents and abilities they have.
Father, help us as parents to encourage our children to appreciate the gifts you have given to their siblings while also recognizing the unique way you have gifted them.